There is a lot of research that shows that social support is important for our health and prosperity. Your social network can also help you feel better about yourself, relax, and have fun.
If you aren’t taking advantage of the relationships that you have, you should. Using your social network during stressful times may help when you are feeling confused or lonely. Make sure you are reaching out to your friends when you are having hard times. Spending time with friends can also be a natural mood boost for many people.
Don’t restrict your social network to just friends and family (although they are important too, of course!). You can add to that list bosses, professors, university/college staff, and religious figures, among others. They are there to help you – all you have to do is ask!
It might be helpful to write down all the people you encounter over a week and jot down things that you admire about them. You can also think about how they might be able to help you if you had a problem. Knowing who to go to when you need help is important to help you in times of need.
Did you get a bad grade on a test or worried about an upcoming assignment? Talk to your professor, you will be surprised how open they can be to helping or giving you advice. Remember that professors are people too – watch this funny video about “office hours“.
Are you struggling with a roommate issue? Learn techniques that work in conflict resolution and being assertive. You can get your needs met without being angry or hurting someone else’s feelings. Here are some tips and tricks on being assertive from the VA.
Want to meet new friends? You can chat up the person who sits next to you in class or join a group in the cafeteria – check out these ideas for small talk – how to make and keep conversations going.
Don’t worry about having a huge social network – having a few people who “get you” goes a long way!!! These intimate connections will help you decide who you are and who you want to be – your best friends will listen to you without judgement as you work your way through college.